3 Things Your Sober Friends NEVER Want to Hear You Say.

People choose sobriety for a number of reasons. These reasons include but are not limited to physical and mental health, addiction and financial stability. Regardless of their reason(s), their sobriety really isn’t any of your business. For some, sobriety may be a serious, personal issue, and until your friend voluntarily tells you why he or she decided to stop drinking- you shouldn’t ask. With that said, your friends still NEEDS your support. Below I give advice on what words you should and (probably) should not use when talking to your sober friends. 1. You Don’t Have a Drinking Problem/ You…

SBGC Tea: Get Through Tough Times

My summer was rough. Real rough. I went through a breakup, a move, a change in employment and much more. I constantly felt anxious and restless. I felt like I was doing too much and not enough at the same time. This is why I took a momentary break from blogging and social media all together, but I am back now and honestly feeling better than I have in months. I won’t lie to ya’ll. I engaged in some recreational activities and sipped on more than wine this summer.::::INSERT CRINGE EMOJI HERE:::::. But I honestly don’t think I would be…

Wednesday Wisdom

Happy Wednesday ladies! I know it’s been a while…like a century (jk)! These past few months ALMOST took me out but I am Back! In my upcoming post, which will be published on Friday, August 23, 2019, I will share with you exactly why I have been missing in action, what to do when you are going through a rough patch, and how I plan to stay connected with you moving forward. In the meantime, I am going to leave you with 10 quotes from the late, great Toni Morrison that will encourage you to hold your head high. May…

How to Get Treatment Without Insurance

I’ve received a number of inquiries about treatment from people who sincerely want to get help. Their number one concern is usually health insurance. Well, I have great news- there are options even when you can’t afford to pay! Read below. Private Rehab Centers Sure, most private rehab centers are expensive and require that you have good insurance to attend. However, it doesn’t hurt to contact the centers in your area to ask if they offer payment options or payment assistance. State Funded Rehab Programs State-funded rehab programs are organizations that use government money to support people in recovery from…

Alcohol & Health: Hear from SBGC’s Sober Ashley.

In my introduction I mentioned that I had several reasons for choosing sobriety, one being my health. Though I’ve experienced a lot of illness in my childhood, my adult life was unmarked by sickness. In fact, from about 2012-2017, I didn’t have a single illness. But around June 2017, my health took a decline that I could not explain. The Almost Alcoholic I would characterize my drinking as “gray area” or almost alcoholism. This type of drinking differs from alcohol dependency because most people never experience withdrawals and it differs from alcohol abuse because most never face major consequences such…

Drunk Sex: Let’s Talk About It

I’ll be honest… real honest…I love drunk sex. It is fun, hot and riveting. I’ve experienced amazing orgasms and perform like a Pornhub pornstar when having sex while drunk. So it should be no surprise when I say I miss having drunk sex, terribly. Until my sobriety, I never understood how much alcohol played a role in my love and sex life. I also didn’t realize how scary intimacy is. Getting close to someone (while sober) is terrifying, and after my first sober sex experience, I am avoiding it at all cost. Sober sex, for me, is so damn uncomfortable….

Introducing SBGC’s Contributing Writer: Ashley

Who am I? My name is Ashley  and I am a practicing sobriety. My decision to practice sobriety was influenced by many things, but not by the belief that I am an alcoholic. Here’s an abbreviated version of my story, as I continue to write here I will dig deeper into specific events and experiences. My relationship with alcohol began at parties my freshman year of college. I loved feeling social, disinhibited and outgoing. For a few years my drinking, while not exactly healthy, was not problematic to me. Sure, I binged with my friends on the weekends, but I…

Social Drinkers, Problem Drinkers and Alcoholics- Where Do You Stand?

It took me a while to understand and accept that I had a problem with alcohol because I knew I wasn’t an alcoholic. To be politically correct I knew I didn’t have Alcohol Use Disorder (AUD). Until recently, I always believed that one was simply an alcoholic or not. I didn’t know the differences between social drinkers, problem drinkers and alcoholics. The National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism (NIAAA) describes alcohol use disorder as “problem drinking that becomes severe.” According to NIAA, AUD is a chronic relapsing brain disease characterized by compulsive alcohol use, loss of control over alcohol…

5 Reasons To Become A Sober Black Girl- Even If You Don’t Have a Drinking Problem

I gave up drinking, and I am not a recovering alcoholic. I simply reached the point in my relationship with alcohol where it no longer served a purpose in my life. I drank to cope and after drinking, I often times felt emotional and sad. I would become moody and experience stomach cramps which would require an entire day to recover from.  I’ve tried to quit drinking in the past, but it never quite worked out. However, this past October I decided to give sobriety another chance, and even though it has been hard it has been very rewarding. I…

Sobriety X Anxiety: Here’s What I Found

Since becoming sober, I’ve experienced really bad anxiety. I guess I have always had anxiety, but coped with it through drinking. But now that I am sober, my anxiety has been out of control. I wake up feeling like I am about to lose my mind without warning and for no apparent reason. I know it’s just my mind playing tricks on me, but it sucks. The more anxious I get the more I want to drink. So this week I went on a mission to discover tools to help manage my anxiety. Below are some tools that work for…