For Black girls who are considering putting the bottle down…
This blog is for you.
In 1976, the late playwright and poet, Ntozake Shange (may her soul rest in peace), wrote “being alive and being a woman is all I got, but being colored is a metaphysical dilemma I haven’t conquered yet”, and even though I was born in 1991- I felt that.
Being a Black woman in a patriarchal, racist society can be overwhelming. It is exhausting.
We experience prejudice, racism and other acts of hate at our schools, work, and homes- with our friends and neighbors. We encounter high rates of domestic violence, rape, and homicide. We are disproportionately punished in schools. We are racially profiled and subjected to police brutality. We are incarcerated at more than five times the rate of white women, and are three and a half times more likely to die during child birth than they are. We make less than other women in the work space, regardless of the degrees we have obtained. Our traumas run so deep that we often feel stuck, as if we will never find solutions to the struggles we face. So yes, we drink, and if anyone were in our shoes, they would probably drink too.
I started drinking in college as a way to cope with my past. As a child I experienced trauma-lots of it, and before I was introduced to alcohol I felt unsafe, angry and alone. I grew up in a pretty strict African Muslim environment; hence, my parents didn’t drink or keep alcohol in our home. So when I went away for college and discovered alcohol, I loved it. It numbed my pain and made me feel normal. However, after ten years of drinking I have accepted that drinking isn’t the solution for my problems, and it probably isn’t the solution for yours.
I created this blog for myself because on October 31, 2018, I decided to live a sober life and I want to hold myself accountable. I created this blog for you because since October 31, 2018, I have come across just ONE blog, through Google, that focuses on sobriety and the Black community. Sobriety is sobriety regardless of race, but as I explained earlier our experiences differ from those around us, and we know that representation is crucial to success.
So I am here for you. It doesn’t matter if you are already living a sober life or just contemplating it. I want you to understand that you are wanted, needed and loved- our struggles do not define us.
As we get to know each other, I will write about the highs and lows of my sobriety. You can expect new content every week (beginning November 30, 2018). I’ll be authentic and genuine. I want us to come together in this space. I want us to talk, giggle, rage, and rejoice together.
If you have any questions, comments, or concerns, holla at me in the “contact” tab and subscribe! Welcome to the Sober Black Girls Club. I can’t wait to hear from you.